a post from Alicia Keys’ twitter account, which asked, “[In] love, is it better to go [for] the choice that is smart or the choice that has spark?”
Alicia finally defends herself for the first time when you read on….
For over 3 years, Alicia Keys has been branded a homewrecker ever since she first started dating her now-husband Swizz Beatz. After news broke that Swizzy was still very much married to his wife, at the time, Mashonda , Alicia remained quiet for years about being the woman who allegedly broke up Swizz and Mashonda’s relationship
In the June 2011 issue of ESSENCE magazine, Alicia Keys speaks out against those homewrecker accusations–years after they began.
Now, Alicia tells Essence that Swizz and Mashonda were “completely separated” before they started dating:
We didn’t start seeing each other until months after they had separated,’ she said. ‘I was aware of all the false things that were being said about me it definitely hurt.”
“We were married,” she said. “Sleeping in the same bed and having sex every night while he was seeing Alicia. Okay? It was an affair. 100 percent. I don’t know why people want to change that rule so much. We had just had a kid, for crying out loud. Our child was 8 months. I found out about Alicia two days before my son turned 1. They had been doing their thing for months before that.”
Maybe defining “separated” is the issue. Legal vs. the emotion or feeling of separation. Swizz has said in interviews he had no longer felt “close” or married to Mashonda in his mind and heart.
swizz beats was experiencing what society calls an “EMOTIONAL DIVORCE” He had already separated and unattached his emotions from Mashonda
Alicia, who became engaged to Swizz Beats only after a month he and Mashonda’s divorce was final,sticks with her side of the story saying:
I was sure that if I engaged it would become back-and-forth like some sick entertainment, which goes against everything I believe and would have made things worse.
Things are really good now,’ said Alicia who also revealed that her love with Dean is ‘intoxicating and whole’.
Kasseem is very present in his children’s lives. I wouldn’t be able to love him otherwise. We are doing what is best for the children,’ she added.
On why she didn’t speak on this matter until now, Ms. Keys always recalls some advice Oprah Winfrey told her for many years:
‘She whispered in my ear and said “Keep some of you for you.”
Alicia Keys wasnt the only one being called a homewrecker..Here were some other ladies that bore that title as well